"When it should work for any reason, do not ever feel guilty to the child because you have to go leave for work," said consultant child Hanny Muchtar Darta, when the talk show "The Importance of Adequate Intake of Vitamins & Minerals For Kids Incredible 'hosted by Scott's Multivitamins in Cilandak Town Square, South Jakarta, some time ago.
According to research, a sense of guilt on the mother's work will lead to negative energy in children. Working mom is haunted by guilt will usually make them likely to meet all the demands of children. By fulfilling all the demands of children, the mother hopes the child will be happy. When children are happy, the guilt would be eroded.
Unfortunately, this way will make the child more willing to use your guilt to be able to "control" you. That children do not feel more powerful than her mother, needed communication between mother and child to explain the reasons why you should work and leave.
"Explain to the child why you are working. For example, to help the father in order to have a decent house, or to finance their education," he said.
Give a reason that makes sense and logical children to digest. Never give a child a made-up reasons, such as, "Mama worked to buy your milk". Although the exact reason, but can make a child think, the better he does not need to drink milk than his mother did not like it should work.
In addition to explaining the purpose you are working, also tell the child that you love doing the job. "Do not just tell children for economic reasons alone, but also explain that you do the job with sincerity and love," said Hanny.
With this explanation, the child also understands that her mother had a fun job. The child becomes better understood that his mother does not work just have to meet their needs, and more "willing" to take off his mother went to work.
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